Ah, 69ing. The mutual oral sex position we all know by name—even if we’ve never tried it. Whether you’re a seasoned pro or just 69-curious, there are plenty of ways to turn this classic position into an unforgettable experience.
Let’s face it: 69ing doesn’t always work the way we hope it will. It can be distracting trying to focus on giving when you’re also receiving. It might feel awkward, rushed, or just plain uncomfortable. But with the right mindset (and maybe a toy or two), 69ing can transform from a novelty to a go-to favorite.
Here are three creative ways to elevate your next 69:
1. Side-by-Side Style for Comfort and Control
The traditional 69 (stacked vertically) can be hard on the neck, hips, and confidence. Switching it up with a side-by-side position—like spooning with mouths instead of hands—lets both partners relax into the moment. This setup can reduce pressure, improve eye contact, and make breathing easier (always a win).
Want to take it further? Use pillows or a sex wedge to support your hips and make alignment feel natural. Comfort equals longevity—which means more time to explore.
2. Add Toys to Take the Pressure Off
Sometimes, multitasking just isn’t the vibe. That’s where toys come in.
Try this: While one partner focuses on giving oral, the other uses a vibrator, stroker, or dildo to enjoy the ride without distraction. Hands-free toys like vibrating cock rings or suction toys for vulvas can bring intense pleasure while keeping your mouth free to do its thing.
This approach not only helps balance stimulation but gives each partner more autonomy and less pressure to “perform.” Mutual pleasure, meet mutual ease.
3. Play with Power Dynamics
Want to add an edge to your 69? Tap into power play. Decide who’s in control (and who’s not). Let one partner take the lead while the other submits, or switch it up halfway through. You can even bring in blindfolds, restraints, or commands to heighten anticipation and intensity.
For a playful dom/sub spin: One partner lays back and receives, while the other teases, licks, and toys with control. Or try using a remote-controlled vibe and let your partner call the shots—literally.
69ing isn’t just about position. It’s a playground for connection, experimentation, and trust.
At its best, 69ing is a juicy combo of giving, receiving, and letting go. If it’s felt awkward in the past, don’t give up—get creative. Make adjustments, use toys, explore different dynamics, and, most of all, talk to your partner about what feels good.
Pleasure should be mutual, and with a little intention, 69ing can be more than a punchline—it can be a whole mood.